Winter Holidays and Grief

Preparing for the holiday season often causes us to take stock of the family, and makes us face the fact that some family members have passed away. When planning for holiday meals and events, there may be one less person at the table. How do the holidays change without your loved one?

Seasonal Sadness

Unfortunately, this time of the year can be difficult for so many. Shorter, colder days contribute to rising feelings of depression. Additionally, colder weather can also contribute to an uptick in death rates, especially among older family members.
Holidays can be stressful enough, with gifts to buy and grand meals to prepare. But for holidays focused around families, it is often easy to notice when a loved one is missing from the festivities.

Grieving During the Holidays

Grief can be a complex emotion to deal with. On the bright side, coming together with family for the holidays can make this easier. Everyone coming together and spending time as a family can help deal with grief. But grief can also increase tensions and add stress. It is important to acknowledge this. Different family members may have varying expectations for the holidays without those who have passed. If possible, discuss holiday plans with other family members ahead of time, to help meet and/or temper expectations.

Holiday Memories and Traditions

Many families have holiday traditions, which are carried on by certain family members. After those loved ones pass, it is important to discuss whether or not to carry on those traditions. These traditions may be recipes, family games, or watching a certain movie together. Some family members may feel that it is important to continue the traditions, while others may want to make way for new ones. There is no right or wrong choice here. You should choose as a family. When making plans for the holidays, discuss changes with your family so you and your loved ones have a plan in place.

Seeking Grief Help During the Holidays

If you are struggling with depression or grief, consider looking into professional care. There are many resources out there that can help you cope with your feelings of loss. Therapy, counseling, and grief-management groups are all options that can help you process your grief. Some non-profits and churches offer grief counseling or host group discussions. There are also many online resources for grief management. Some counselors or therapists offer group sessions specifically for family units dealing with grief, as well.

The author of this post is not a professional therapist or counselor. For more personalized grief care, find a grief counselor who is right for you. For our Grief Resource Center, written by Dr. Bill Webster, click here. 

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