Supporting a Grieving Teen

After the death of a loved one, it can be a challenge for families to support their children through such a change. Dealing with grief and death can be especially overwhelming for teens. This article can be helpful for parents, teachers, and other adults who may be able to help teens through their grief. 

Validating Their Feelings

Grief can often cause individuals to feel complex emotions. Grief can manifest as more than sadness, especially for teens. They may feel anger or even guilt. There is no right or wrong way to experience grief. Ultimately, it is important to help them understand that they are OK to feel how they feel. Let them know that they can talk to you, and that you are there to support, not judge. From there, guide them toward channeling their feelings constructively. 

Outlets for Emotions

Teenage emotions can be overwhelming, especially in times of extreme grief. Help them find an outlet that lets them healthily release their feelings. This can come in many forms. Athletic endeavors, art, music, and writing can be good places to start. Try to find an outlet that fits your teen, without making it feel like homework.

Changes in Social Behavior

It is not uncommon for grieving teens to change their regular social behaviors. Outgoing kids with close friend groups may suddenly seem isolated. Or, kids who were not very socially active may suddenly be out all the time with friends. Some teens may want to distance themselves in grief, while others don’t want to be alone. As a caregiver, you should just make sure that your child doesn’t feel too isolated or overwhelmed. And make sure that they are making good decisions during this time.

Drugs/Alcohol and Grief with Teenagers

While it is not uncommon for teenagers to experiment with drugs or alcohol, doing so while grieving can be more destructive. Exploring drugs and alcohol while in an altered mental state because of grief could make your child more prone to abusing the substances. Or they could be more likely to develop bad habits or even addictions. Talk with them about these potential dangers. Try not to come from a position of preaching. Meet them where they are at, and come from a place of support. 

Check in Often

It can mean a lot to your teen to know that you are looking out for them. Check in with them every so often. Even just knowing that you are looking out for them can make a huge difference. 

Additional Care and Support for Your Teen

If your teen is struggling with grief, suggest that they talk to a professional. Whether you schedule an appointment with a grief counselor, a therapist, or even the school guidance counselor, professional support can make a difference. The school guidance counselor can be a great place to start. And they may offer your teen resources for further professional care if needed. 

The author of this post is not a professional therapist or counselor. For more personalized grief care, find a grief counselor who is right for you. For our Grief Resource Center, written by Dr. Bill Webster, click here. 
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