Grief and Routines - Back to School

Grief can take a heavy toll on a family. After the loss of a loved one, you and your children may have a hard time adjusting. Routines can be an important part of getting back into the groove of life. Going back to school in the fall can be part of that adjustment for you and your children.

Grief and School Schedules

Falling into a routine can be a good way to help you get your bearings after a loss. Having a set routine grounds us and keeps us moving. School can help set a schedule for more than just your kids. Adapting yourself to the routine of getting the kids ready and getting them to school or to their bus stop is likely a part of your morning routine already. Having these set rituals to force you out of bed can help with depressive feelings of grief. 

Life After Loss In School

For your children, school can be hard after a major family loss. But it also provides opportunities for healing. Some children may have trouble focusing in class or paying attention while dealing with grief. However, school also provides social benefits for your kids. Friends can help uplift your children. And teachers may provide consolation if your child needs. Communicating with your child’s teacher regarding their loss can help them look out for telltale signs of grief. 

Changes in Routine After the Loss of A Parent

After a parent or guardian dies, there may be changes to your child’s daily life that need to be accounted for. As a family, you will need to work together to make adjustments. For some children, this may mean preparing their own lunch or finding another way home from school. Chores may have to be divided differently. Communicating with your children about new routine expectations can be vital to ensuring your home life can find new normalcy. 

Leaning on Community

You may want to reach out to other adults in your life to help where needed. Close family members or friends may be able to assist with transporting kids to school or taking them to extracurricular activities. Consider communicating with their friends or team members’ parents to establish carpool schedules. 

Grief Help at School

If your child is struggling with their loss, suggest that they talk to a school guidance counselor. Their guidance counselor can provide some help with their grief, and can provide a safe place at school for them to express their grief. If needed, they can also recommend resources for further grief support outside of school.

The author of this post is not a professional therapist or counselor. For more personalized grief care, find a grief counselor who is right for you. For our Grief Resource Center, written by Dr. Bill Webster, click here. 
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