Finding Your Place After Losing a Loved One

By: Matthew Funeral Home
Thursday, July 13, 2023

After losing a close loved one, it can be hard to adjust to life without them. Especially if you lost a close family member, dear friend, roommate, or partner. What does your daily life look like without them there? This article will discuss finding your place in this new world without your loved one. 

Adjusting to A Change In Home Life

After losing someone who was a part of your daily life, your home life may change drastically. There may be new responsibilities, different things you have to take care of, and changes to your overall environment. The loss of a partner or roommate may mean that you can't afford to live where you are now. And that itself can be a major change. Alternatively, bringing in a new roommate to your living space while dealing with grief can be a jarring change. But it may be necessary. 
Overall, drastic changes to home life can take time to adjust to. And if you are making major changes as a result of or during periods of major grief, they can be hard to get used to. In general, try your best to make baby steps in the direction of change. And don't be afraid to ask for help from loved ones if needed.

Changes to Daily Life

In addition to changes in the home, A major loss can change other aspects of your daily life. You may not be able to call upon that friend in your times of need. Your support system may change because of this loss. You may not have the same friend to go see an upcoming movie or go out to brunch with. These changes can see minimal at times, and overwhelming at others. 
While they may be hard to accept, it is important that you find other ways to fulfill these changes and connect with others in your social life. You may not be able to fill these roles immediately. But being able to call on friends and loved ones for support can be vital in times of grief.

Changes in Family Settings

Losing a close family member can mean major changes when it comes to family gatherings and holidays. It might mean changing traditions, who is hosting the holiday, or responsibilities to bring certain dishes. It may mean changing recipes if they are lost or starting new traditions. Change that is brought about by loss is not necessarily a bad thing. It is always hard to go into family gatherings knowing that there is one less person coming to the table. Hopefully you and your loved ones and cherish the memories that you have with the deceased. Sharing stories of your loved one and remembering the good times can be an important and cathartic experience for all of you.

The author of this post is not a professional therapist or counselor. For assistance in finding a grief counselor that is right for you, there are several resources out there. For our Grief Resource Center, written by Dr. Bill Webster, click here
For over 50 years, Matthew Funeral Home has been serving the Staten Island community. We can help with almost every aspect of your loved one’s memorial service. Our family is here to serve yours, every step of the way.

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