On the First Anniversary of a Death

By: Matthew Funeral Home
Monday, April 30, 2018


The year after the death can be difficult. The impact that the passing of a loved one can have on your life can be immense. The anniversary of a death can be a hard day to deal with. Grief over a loved one is normal, especially on the anniversary of your loved one’s death. It is important not to avoid thinking about them, but to remember and honor them. There are a number of different ways to celebrate the life of your loved one on this day; which can help alleviate grief and bring your family closer together. 

Memorializing Them

On the anniversary of a death, families and friends may get together to celebrate the life of a loved one. Visiting the resting place of the deceased is a common choice for families. Families might get together and reminisce over photos and stories of their loved one. You may also want to light a candle at your church. Some families establish a scholarship or charity in their loved one’s name.

Helping Others

Doing good for others can be cathartic, especially when doing something close to the heart of your loved one. If you are willing to part with them, consider donating some of their belongings to those in need. Donating to a charity that your loved one supported can be a great way to honor them, especially if you do it in their name. You can also plant a tree in their name.

Treating Yourself

Grief can be stressful. While honoring and remembering your loved one can be important, it can also be good to make yourself feel more at peace. Consider getting a massage, or go out with friends. Relieving the stress from the grieving process can be cleansing for your spirit. It isn’t about forgetting your loved one, but easing the pain of loss.

Personal Ways to Honor Them

Some people may want to remember their loved one apart from others. If you feel like this might the case for yourself, know that it is not uncommon to want to be alone with your thoughts on the anniversary of a death. Try writing a letter to them. Whether you keep it for yourself or you throw it away after, writing out your thoughts and feelings can be very healing. You can also create a keepsake box full of trinkets and items that remind you of them. Make a mix or playlist of songs that remind you of them. Watch their favorite movie. Doing things to celebrate their life can be an important part of the healing process.
For almost 50 years, Matthew Funeral Home has been serving the Staten Island community. We can help with almost every aspect of your loved one’s memorial service. Our family is here to serve yours, every step of the way.

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