The First Mother's Day Without Mom

By: Matthew Funeral Home
Sunday, May 5, 2019


Mother’s Day is a time we celebrate those who devoted their lives to caring for us, and for bringing us into the world. But it can be a difficult holiday to celebrate after the passing of your mother. The passing of a parent is always difficult. But when holidays or birthdays pass us by we are so often reminded of the empty seat at the table. What can you do to avoid falling into a sea of grief, on a day that should be dedicated to someone who was so devoted to making you thrive?

Be With Your Siblings

If you have siblings, spend time with them on Mother’s Day. Reminisce the fond memories together, and be there for each other. Everyone grieves differently; but it is often helpful to have close family around for support. 

Spend Time With Your Children

If you have your own children, then spend Mother’s Day with them. Share a day making memories with your kids. Try to find joy with the loved ones you can surround yourself with today. Your mother would want you to celebrate with them. Have a good day spending time with those dearest to you, and celebrate the type of parent you were able to become, because of the effort your mother has put into raising you.

Visit Her Resting Place

Trips to the cemetery are not uncommon on Mother’s Day. Visiting the cemetery can be healing. Some people might find it helpful to talk to a parent at their resting place, it can help create a sense of closure and acceptance. 

Go Through Photo Albums

Sometimes looking through photos of those we lost can bring up feelings of grief; but photographs are most often taken during all the good times. Look back on old family photos, vacations from years past, and all the holidays where your mother told you to wear that shirt because it looked better than the one you picked out. Share these photos with your loved ones, and reminisce together.
Mother’s Day is often a holiday for arts and crafts. Gather siblings or your children and create a Mother’s Day Scrapbook to remember all the good times, and to create something new and beautiful together. 

The author of this post is not a professional therapist or counselor. For assistance in finding a grief counselor that is right for you, there are a number of resources out there. For our Grief Resource center, written by Dr. Bill Webster, click here.
For almost 50 years, Matthew Funeral Home has been serving the Staten Island community. We can help with almost every aspect of your loved one’s memorial service. Our family is here to serve yours, every step of the way.
 

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