Ash Scattering Ceremonies: What to Say

By: Matthew Funeral Home
Tuesday, September 8, 2020


It can be hard to come up with a eulogy for a funeral, but many people at least know how one should sound. As many people have less experience with ash scattering ceremonies, it can be harder to really understand what to say during such a somber moment. This article will go through some of the common choices that families make during ash scattering ceremonies. Talk with your family to pick the right one for your loved one’s scattering. 

Give a Brief Eulogy

Eulogies are best kept short and sweet, but especially for ash scattering ceremonies. Whereas one might tell a story about their loved one during a wake, try to keep it simple and dignified. Write out the eulogy ahead of time, and practice saying it. Ideally, you want to keep it brief. 

Prayer

Saying a prayer can be a lovely way to send off your loved one’s ashes. If you are not comfortable leading a prayer, or you cannot find one that suits your loved one, you should reach out to their place of worship to see if a pastor or clergy member can join the ceremony and lead the prayer.

Share a Favorite Quote

Quotes can be incredibly powerful, especially if they meant something to the deceased. A memorial quote, a favorite poem, a Bible verse, or a favorite song lyric can be a good place to start. Consider looking through your loved one’s books for inspiration. A dog-eared page can be a great place to find a good quote.

Open Mic

Consider opening the floor up to other family and friends to say something. Final goodbyes and shared thoughts can be cathartic to those in mourning, and can make for a truly memorable ceremony.

A Moment of Silence

Alternatively, a moment of silence can be a very good way to honor your loved one’s memory. A moment of silent reverence allows your loved one’s friends and family to have a moment to reflect on memories and thoughts, or to say a silent prayer to themselves.

For almost 50 years, Matthew Funeral Home has been serving the Staten Island community. We can help with almost every aspect of your loved one’s memorial service. Our family is here to serve yours, every step of the way.

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